Our goal is for Soul Fire Farm to be a supportive, nonviolent, and inclusive space for all who participate. Everyone who comes to the farm is expected to engage other humans, species, and the land with respect. We will interrupt oppressive behavior, defined as any conduct that demeans, marginalizes, rejects, threatens or harms anyone on the basis of ability, age, cultural background, education, ethnicity, gender, immigration status, language, nationality, physical appearance, race, religion, or sexual orientation as well as any conduct that damages the dwelling spaces or the Earth.
- NONVIOLENCE: There is zero tolerance for violence – including physical and verbal threats, bullying, “dragging,” sexual harassment, assault, relational aggression, and intimidation. “Attack problems not people.” Be aware of both intent and impact. Listen and change your behavior if someone tells you it is causing harm. Call in, not out. When someone behaves in a way that challenges your values, do your best to invite them into awareness rather than dismissing, shaming, or shunning them. Don’t be a bystander – support others in upholding our agreements. You don’t have to “call in” alone – facilitators can support or do it for you.
- IDENTITY: Respect everyone’s identity and background, including pronouns and names. Do not assume anyone’s gender identity, sexual preference, survivor status, economic status, immigration or documentation status, background, health, etc. During BLFI and caucus spaces, white people move back and give space for POC to lead, and step out of certain reflection spaces entirely. Do not take the more comfortable seating spaces if you are living without disabilities or pain and do not use ableist language.
- CONSENT: Respect everyone’s emotional boundaries. Check in before discussing topics that may be triggering (e.g. sexual abuse, racism, suicide). Respect people’s physical boundaries. Always get explicit verbal consent before touching someone. Non-observation. Do not observe programs or photograph people without consent.
- PRESENCE: Please show up, on time, fully present, and ready to give and receive. Alcohol is permitted only during pre approved special events, and is otherwise not used in common spaces.
- LISTENING: Actively participate. Actively listen. Silence is okay. Do not assume silence is agreement. Embrace “ragged thoughts.” Be open and respect different opinions, experiences, and learning styles. Practice “both/and” thinking. Ask questions before assuming. The best way to understand the choices, actions, or intentions of one another is by asking.
- SHARING: Share knowledge and skills with our community. No one knows everything. Together we know a lot. “Take space, make space” for all to participate. Be aware of your prejudices and privileges and allow space for all voices. Practice self-focus language. Use “I statements.” Expect and accept non-closure. Confidentiality– What’s said here stays here, what’s learned here leaves here.
- SELF CARE: Practice self-care. Be patient and gentle with self. Take care of yourself. If you need to take a break, you can do that. Don’t let FOMO (fear of missing out) obscure your heart needs. Breathe. Speak from your heart.